Changing Your How
But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. 10 Once you were not a people, but now you are God's people; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy. I Peter 2:9-10
The Nashville Sit-Ins which lasted from February 13 to May 10, 1960, were among the earliest non-violent direct-action campaigns in the 1960s to end racial segregation in the South. And, they were the first campaigns to desegregate lunch counters in Nashville, Tennessee. The sit-in campaign was coordinated by the Nashville Student Movement and the Nashville Christian Leadership Council which was made up primarily of students from Fisk University, American Baptist Theological Seminary, and Tennessee State University. Diane Nash and John Lewis who were both students at Fisk University emerged as the major leaders of the local movement. There actions helped change the world.
What was one of the lessons of the Nashville sit-in's? In the words of Pauline Knight-Ofuso, one of the lessons of the Nashville sit-ins was that when "you don't like the conditions, you do what is required."
I read a quote yesterday that said, “the #1 cause of divorce is marriage.” I disagree. The #1 cause of divorce is how we do marriage. In fact, the #1 cause of most of our issues in life is how we life. What if today, you simply changed your how and not your what? What if what you are is God's will for your life? It is God's will for you to be married, a parent, a teacher, a leader, a friend, or whatever. So, if married, parent, teacher, friend, leader, employee is what God has called you to be, then changing how you live that out is the most important factor right now.
You see, 'how' reveals who we really are. You can’t change that you are a parent. But, what if you changed how you do parenting. We change our what because often we aren’t mature or courageous enough to change our how. Changing your what is the simple way out. But changing how you do life is the more mature way.
Civil Rights was simply chaining how life was going to be lived. Those students could not change what they were - Black. However, they could and did change how to live Black in America. All I am asking of you is this, stop focusing on the what you are (married, parent, preacher, manager, teacher, etc.). Focus today on how you are going to be better at living out what you are.
It isn't what you are but how you are going about doing it that has you frustrated, stressed, angry and bitter. Change your how and you will change your life.